Romans 4: 1-15
"..who are you to judge?"
Yesterday, i was part of an afterwork conversation, talking about boyfriends, partners and just our lives outside of hospital. During that conversation, what i heard surprised me. One girl has been engaged for 2 years and planning to get married early next year. Her 'partner' proposed to her 2 years ago when she was 18 and he was 19. The other girl, just broke up with her boyfriend but still misses him and would go back to him if he asks her to. But he used to beat her, cheat on her and says he wants his freedom back. Another girl, mentioned that her multivitamins have the words, 'making healthy babies' which freak the bf out. and she had to assure him that no she's not pregnant.
while the latter is more of a guess work and assumptions, these stories made me pass unspoken judgement in my head. Do not get me wrong, i didnt condemn them or anything like that but all the same, this morning's QT reminded me not to judge, not to finger point.
The decisions people make are their own. Just like Roman 14 says re food. What one person eats is their own decision, just like the proverb thats says, 'one's man meat is another man's poison.'
While pre-marital sex is definitely more than just my own personal conviction (it's a biblical principle, for sex is more than just sex. it's about intimacy), the others (like man hitting woman, what age is the 'mature' age to set engagements) are my own personal convictions.
Its challenging to remain neutral and keep my thoughts in check. BUt i need to for i really do care for these people and hope one day that i have the opportunity to tell them more about the love that knows no boundaries i found with God.